Diane has a longstanding conflict with her mother because she does not want to understand her for who she is and not what Diane wants her to be. In her mind, her mother is a poor parent because she smokes pot and sells it, which is illegal. At the same time, Diane remembers the days that her mother was not able to pick her up from school on time because she is wasted or with her lovers. She cannot let go of her mother’ s “ irresponsibility, embarrassment and total refusal grow up” (Peace, Love & Misunderstanding).
Her mother, on the other hand, continues with her carefree hippie life. She wants to make amends with her daughter for the sake of her relationship and for the sake of being with her grandchildren, but as Jude describes Diane, the latter cannot stop her fighting as she “ [boxes] with shadows” (Peace, Love & Misunderstanding). Diane does not realize yet that all she does in her life is to fight, even when people are not fighting with her. All she knows is that and her mother are in conflict because they have different values and priorities in life.
Diane has yet to open her mind to the real reason behind their conflict- her inability to fully accept her mother, especially her human faults and limitations and their differences as human beings. Apart from conflict with her family, the greatest conflict Diane has is with her own self because she has not accepted the fullness of her humanity. She misunderstands people because she misunderstands her identity most of all. Because of her mother’ s spirit, whom Diane learned to loathe, she decided to be more responsible and aggressive.
She does not know how to have fun and appreciate life’ s simple sources of happiness. An example is her displaced anger at her mother’ s chickens. These chickens are free and have no troubles in the world. Diane does not want to be like that. She wants to know her roles and goals in life and to feel responsible for them. When something goes wrong, Diane blames herself.
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