According to Bowlby, a child’ s experience gathered in childhood through its relationship with its mother and hence its outlook towards the society, plays an important psychological role in determining its character and its view towards the society when it grows up. It has often been observed that the children of the anti-socials had been full of negligence and deprival which has sucked out all their humanity and fellow feeling. Same can be said about children who spend their childhood in an orphanage where there is no one to specially care for each child.
Such children spend a childhood of depression and when they grow up, often develop a pessimistic approach towards life. Moreover, since the commencement of human civilization, human beings have learned to depend on one another to satisfy their basic needs. Thus the nature of dependence on one another is the integral feature of mankind. Now, if a child is deprived of his right at the start of the life, this will obviously hamper the natural growth and development of its mind and consequently, develop a sense of loneliness at a later stage in life. The child wants to feel proximity or desires a sense of nearness from its mother (biological mother or a substitute caregiver) or the person it is attached to, in case the person is not a female. The child must feel a sense of comfort, security and safety from any potential threats or dangers when the person is around or rather if the child is faced with any probable danger, it must feel certain that there is a person whom it can turn to, with whom it is strongly attached and returning to whom it can overcome all its fears.
It must have the feeling that whatever happens its mother is never going to leave it. The child feels itself safe and secure being with its mother. The person with whom the child is attached is like a fortress to it, where it can hide itself when in danger and keep an eye on the happenings from a safe distance.
Please type your essay title, choose your document type, enter your email and we send you essay samples